The same theories listed below that work with children also apply for adults. There are two schools of thought and a combination of the two can also be effective. The first is to take action to combat the tantrums. Actions include deep breathing exercises, soft music, slow rocking, soft repetitive talk, doing a repetitive action, taking a shower, etc. I can explain more about these if you call me. The second school of thought is time/distraction model. this is the notion that separating (going to your room for 20 minutes, taking a walk, etc), leads to calming of emotions etc.… Continue reading
1. Assess each environment before entering it:
When you pick up your child I assume you generally ask them how there day was. My guess is that you get the response “fine”. This is the child not communicating how they are feeling. If you probe more you will get a better understanding where they are at. You could even ask them to rank there day on a 1-10 scale. This also applies to your spouse. When you walk in the door and ask your spouse how there day was, gather more information than “fine”. If you know they had bad… Continue reading
New research has shown that the key to fighting the video game war, is to change our approach completely. We want the child to develop and make more and new neuro connections. This is what leads to cognitive flexibility, the ability to learn more information, and increases in confidence and self-esteem. Therefore the focus is not to get the child to stop playing video games, its to change, increase, and have the child play a diverse amounts of games.
Allow them to play games as long as they continuously play new and different types of games that you feel would… Continue reading
Parents are the central figures in the lives of their children. In fact, parents have the MOST important influence on their child’s education and achievement in school. Researchers who study effects of parental involvement on children’s education and student achievement found that parental involvement in child and adolescent education generally benefits children’s learning and translates into academic gains in all grades (elementary school through high school). Across a range of studies, findings show that children whose parents are actively involved perform better in school, achieve greater academic success, and navigate more easily through some of the challenges of growing… Continue reading
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How to effectively communicate with your children!
Remember that time is interpreted differently with a child. Do you remember how long road trips felt as a child? How long your school day felt? When a parent or adult said, “It will be a couple weeks” it felt like an eternity? The concept of time changes drastically as we get older. We need to ensure that we incorporate this understanding when working with our children. Punishments of long periods of… Continue reading